You know the old saying “You win some and you lose some”?
I really don’t believe that.
Yes, things don’t always go our way, or the way we thought it should go. I remember in grade school when I was learning multiplication, it’s the problems that I struggled with that I remember the best today!
When we fail it really is an opportunity . . .
An opportunity to review. An opportunity to learn again, or learn it better. An opportunity to re-evaluate our goals, to ask ourselves is our “why” strong enough?
We recently moved. Our girls are teenagers now and our family dynamic is changing . . . I had the privilege to be in the car with our five girls for H.O.U.R.S.! Guess what we did a lot of?
Yep! We did what teenagers do!
We listened to their playlist. Over and over and over. We giggled a lot really and enjoyed our time together.
So, one song that the girls kept playing was a Jason Mraz song. I realized Jason Mraz and I had more in common than just avocados . . . Apparently, Jason Mraz is into avocados. You can read about that here, and naturally I am too, having been raised on an avocado ranch in N. San Diego county. There was a lyric that caught my attention and it was something along the line of. . .
you win some and you LEARN some
This really struck a cord with me. I have always been one to read non fiction, if I read a book it is to learn something.
I am a self learner. A determined creative. An analytical creative. An entrepreneur. I live to grow and learn.
Does this mean I have never failed?
Does this mean I don’t face self doubt?
Doest this mean I never feel like the bottom rung of success in my peer group?
This means, when I fail I try again.
I view failure as an opportunity to LEARN. To grow in knowledge or clarity of purpose.
I did not have the privilege of a college education. I am a self taught graphic design and web developer, a result of years of determination and drive.
Changing my thinking from “You win some and you lose some” to . . .
has changed who I am today.
As Steven Covey wrote about in his book, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal Change
We need a paradigm shift, a change in our thinking.
Our mistakes can mean our victory and personal and professional growth.
As I reflect on my journey in self education I realize the times I thought I failed I really learned. I learned something that helped me grow.
You can too.